Life is a series of ups and downs. Up. Down. Up. Down. or so it seems. Then one day you find that the downs seem less. Don’t get me wrong. They are always there. But- you might find they just don’t get you the way they used to. This is how life is going for me at least. I married my best friend in July and yes things aren’t “perfect’- but the stresses of life don’t seem so hard with my hubby by my side.
Now I am not saying you need a significant other to be happy. I am just saying that’s what made life a bit better for me. But here is why:
Stephen met me almost two years ago. You see we met online. I had no friends and I lived alone in a bachelor apartment that was sub-par at best. It wasn’t all bad- my parents lived nearby and I am very close with them. I just was lonely. I was also a hot mess to be truthful. My apartment was untidy and I had no job and was kind of a train wreck so to think my now husband had found something in me at the time was a miracle.
Stephen and I got to know each other rather fast which was crazy because he lived 45 minutes away. But he and I hit it off over movies and late night dinner dates because he was and still is a hardworking farmer.
Stephen loved me through some rough patches due to external stresses and likewise I helped and supported him through some bad times in his life.
Stephen loved me despite my many flaws- to the point that all I wanted to do was better myself to make him proud. He deserved me at my best.
Since we met I have gotten my beginners licence and a job I love as a clerical worker, started taking care of myself better, and even have a small graphic design business in the works. You see my now-husband believes in my potential and wants me to follow my dreams and grow as a person.
Stephen and I have been through so much and when he proposed I was exhilarated. I would no longer have to travel to see him and we could start a life together. And since July 1st that’s what we have been doing. (I will do a separate post on the pre-wedding and wedding details)
Now to all the naysayers and feminists that believe you can “get your shit together without a man”- Ya maybe you could but Stephen was my savior and still is. I needed someone to show me just how good I could be. Someone to lift me up out of my scattered, chaotic life and show me that I am a wonderful, capable woman. But that is MY journey. I am not weak for needing guidance. If you can make it on your own: “Good on you!”, but I needed help.
But the funny thing is I haven’t stopped my journey in bettering myself. Now my life revolves around making my husband proud and lifting him up when he needs support. A marriage is all about lifting and supporting each other so that you both can be your best selves. Becoming one great team.
So I guess the reason I don’t notice as many low points in my life now is because I have the best life partner that keeps pushing me my optimal self. And the best is yet to come.