Okay. I have been holding out on you. I am a mom. A step-mom. I have a wonderful step-daughter who I love, adore and cherish. And who I have chosen to raise as good as if she were my own.
Now I am leading up to something here. There is a common misconception about step-parents that I find downright insulting. It is my understanding that many people believe that you can’t love as much as the person who made the baby. NOT TRUE! I didn’t make Belle but I raise her as my own and love her infinitely. Whats more people have said to me that I am not her real mother so I don’t need to be involved in Belle’s upbringing and to that I say this:
“No. I did not make Belle. that is true. But that being said I raise her. I am involved in the changing of diapers, the potty training, the bath time, the playtime and the well being and development of her. I want her to know she is amazing and loved and not just by my husband and her biological mother but by me also.
Her biological mother BTW knows how much I cherish Belle and is grateful for the love I give and for the support. Being a parent can be tough. The more help the better, right. Don’t people also say it takes a village to raise a child?
Belle is the child I chose to raise. I may not have pushed her out of my lower half but I love her. She is my responsibility and I am proud of that. Don’t people see she is better to have a bonus mom, isn’t that more love, support and encouragement. Isn’t that what every parent wants for their child; to be built up every chance they get and made into a wonderful adult that can function in a challenging world and come out on top.”
And to those people who say, “You will love your babies more” I say:
“Ummm, why are you telling me how my heart works. Love is indefinite and the more you love the more you are capable of loving. In other words my heart can always grow to love more children and is not restricted to love any child more than another.”
So I guess the point of this post is to stand up for all of the step-parents out there who raise children without a second thought. It takes a full heart to raise and love someone that you didn’t make and if I might say so, step-parents are pretty amazing. And so are step-children! ❤